Dating 101 - How to cry

They say women who date married men shouldn't wear mascara.
 Why? You may ask.
 Because of all the time you'll spend crying and messed up. I reiterate and add, women who date players shouldn't wear mascara, women who date bachelors needn't bother either.
 Heck, women who date shouldn't wear mascara.......Come to think of it, women who are married to the married men shouldn't wear mascara too (or maybe keep wipes handy).

In the quest for love, your heart is bound to get a few nicks here and there. If you don't, you are extremely blessed. If you do, the pain is worth the prize...eventually....I think.

Mena, I AM SORRY, I listen to advice (you can see i hear word ba?)... really. ;;)

Facts of Life - Women

Women by nature are multipliers. What you lay on them or give them, they multiply it back to you.
You give them your seed, they give you a child.
You give them attention, they give you devotion.
You give them pain, they give you torture.
You give them trouble, they give you hell.

Yep! That's us.

Happy New year!!!!

All through the new year celebration and even several days after, i have had time to think, to reflect, to reminisce on the last year( and all other synonyms that may apply). A lot of things/thoughts came to mind, a lot of songs also came to my mind.
In my mind i was having a conversation with my Lord and we were talking on the past year and the ones to come. I know i have hurt his feelings in more ways than one. I know i have broken his heart time and again. I know i have upset him one too many times, putting a furrow in his brow.
I have said i am sorry a thousand times, i have begged for his mercies even more but beyond all this He has been there.
Even all of my faithlessness was not able to extinguish His faithfulness. All of my foolishness could not drown out his extravagant grace. All my betrayal did not overturn his undying love.
Tell me, how can i not love him like i do???????  So that's why i say from the depth of my heart, in the words of Damita Haddon...my heart, my mind, my soul, my love, my life, the song i sing, the life i live....they all  belong to you. Yes, i surrender it all. Yes, i turn it all over. Yes, it all belongs to you.
More so, i think the song, Moving forward by Isreal Houghton is pertinent especially at this time.

What a moment You have brought me to.
Such a freedom I have found in You.
You're the healer who makes all things new.
Yeah, yeah, yeah!


I'm not going back, I'm moving ahead.
I'm here to declare to you my past is over.
In You all things are made new. Surrendered
My Life to Christ. I'm Moving, Moving Forward.


You have risen with all power in Your hand.
You have given me a second chance.
Hallelujah, hallelujah!
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah!


I'm not going back, I'm moving ahead.
I'm here to declare to you my past is over.
In You all things are made new. Surrendered
My Life to Christ. I'm Moving, Moving Forward.


You make all Things new.
Yes, you make all things new and I will Follow You forward.


I will follow you forward.....


Here's wishing everyone a happy new year( it's never too late for that wish, right?) and hoping you share these...sentiments. May the rest of our days be the best of our days:)

Whatchamacallit

It's not what i had seen
It's not what i had heard
It's not what i had believed
It is so much more.
It's in the look in your eyes
It's in every beat of your heart
It's in the warmth of your embrace
It's in the kiss of your lips
It's reflected by the passion that burns in me
It's aroused by the affection my heart feels
It's not just the things you say but how you say them
It's not just the things you do but the way you do
It is you. It is me. It is us together.

What inspires me....

I hate to sound cliche but truly God inspires me.
I am inspired to write when i pray to God and tell Him all that's in my heart.
I am inspired to write poems when i sing Him my love songs in praise.
I am inspired to know what love is when i feel the thousand and one ways in which He loves me and expresses it.
I am inspired as an artist when i see my reflection in His eyes, the way He sees me.
I am inspired to love art when i truly feel the wonder and see it all in His beautiful creation
I am inspired to speak when i hear all He has to say, read on how He feels and what He's promised.
I am inspired to be because I know who i am in Him and who He is within me.

Life lessons - Habits

I have learned  over-time that with habits:

• They do not die a natural death
• They could however be replaced

Either good or bad, with habits, the principle of elimination by substitution comes to fore very strongly;You can only substitute one habit for another.
 It is pure delusion to think you can just get rid of an habit how and when you like. If it takes two mins to develop a habit, it's going to take two years to get rid of it and only by replacing it with another. If there is another way, please drop me a line because I'd really like to know.

Mad as a Hatter?

There is a right and wrong way to be angry. It's easy to feel like it's your life and therefore your choice on your feelings and the expression of said. But there are two things that should guide one's anger process;
1. Be angry but sin not
2. Do not cut your nose to spite your face.
In simpler terms; It's okay to be angry, mad, upset, livid and even in a rage but do not in that flash of anger do things that you'll regret for moments past that fleeting one.
Someone once said, "...to be angry, that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, in the right way, for the right reason, now that is the difficult part...."
You have to be willing to take responsibility for everything that you allow to happen to you and learn to stop shifting/trading blames. More so, you have to know it's not all about how you feel. Feelings fade and that too shall pass.
Do the right and needful thing irrespective of your feelings (which to be honest, tend to be fickle)
Xoxo