Sunday, November 21, 2010

Life lessons - Habits

I have learned  over-time that with habits:

  • They do not die a natural death
  • They could however be replaced
Either good or bad, with habits, the principle of elimination by substitution comes to fore very strongly;You can only substitute one habit for another.
 It is pure delusion to think you can just get rid of an habit how and when you like. If it takes two mins to develop a habit, it's going to take two years to get rid of it and only by replacing it with another. If there is another way, please drop me a line because I'd really like to know.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Mad as a Hatter?

There is a right and wrong way to be angry. It's easy to feel like it's your life and therefore your choice on your feelings and the expression of said. But there are two things that should guide one's anger process;
1. Be angry but sin not
2. Do not cut your nose to spite your face.
In simpler terms; It's okay to be angry, mad, upset, livid and even in a rage but do not in that flash of anger do things that you'll regret for moments past that fleeting one.
Someone once said, " be angry, that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, in the right way, for the right reason, now that is the difficult part...."
You have to be willing to take responsibility for everything that you allow to happen to you and learn to stop shifting/trading blames. More so, you have to know it's not all about how you feel. Feelings fade and that too shall pass.
Do the right and needful thing irrespective of your feelings (which to be honest, tend to be fickle)

Thursday, November 18, 2010

To a great man on his birthday

Sometimes I wonder, even out loud, what I ever did to deserve a friend like him. Why have I been graced with the privilege, the honour of saying truly, this is my friend. My best friend.
How many coins could I have thrown in how many fountains?
How many wishes could I have whispered on how many stars?
How many prayers could I have said in how many languages?
How much could I have paid in taxes, levies, fees and bills?
Why was I chosen to be blessed with a friend like no other?
Lucky for me, Mr. and Mrs. Kuyinu decided to get together.
Lucky for me, they wanted to have kids.
Lucky for me, they did, they had a son.
Lucky for me, they brought him up in the way of the Lord, but more importantly he was taught of the Lord.
Lucky for me, he got admission into the University of Ilorin.
Lucky for me, so did I.
Lucky for me, things didn’t go as smoothly as he would have hoped.
Lucky for me, he had to move in with Matthew.
Lucky for me, he wasn’t only on my block or neighbor to my friend but he was also friends with his neighbor.
Lucky for me, my friend decided one evening to look over his poetry journal.
Lucky for me, I happened to be passing by.
Lucky for me, he was big enough to overlook my seemingly snobbish attitude and still kept right on talking with me.
Lucky for me, his writing was captivating.
Lucky for me, that wasn’t the last time we talked.
Lucky for me, he had an answer for even my silliest questions.
Lucky for me, he gave me one chance and then another and then another and they kept right on coming.
Lucky for me, his capacity to love me was far greater than my capacity to be a brat.
Lucky for me, he taught me what love really is.
Lucky for me, I learned.
And since then, till now I have come to know that Seye Kuyinu is one of the greatest gifts God gave, not just to this generation but to me. Mimi
You are a friend, a brother, a blessing and I love you so very much.
Congratulations on getting older and wiser. May your leaves be evergreen, your strength be continually renewed, your wisdom continue to increase and your dreams continue to inflame your heart, Mostly may the eyes and hand of God continue to rest on you so that you continue to be a blessing.
Lots of love (LOL)
It's a little late but blame it on the internet, and my busy schedule and many other things, but better late than never, innit?

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Life as we know it

Sometimes don’t you wish that life was like a book or a movie?
When it gets to the horrible bits, you have the option of pausing, fast-forwarding, ejecting, walking outta the theater or simply closing the book, maybe until you are ready to face the horror.
Alas! Life is not like a feature film or a novel, although the scripts are somewhat familiar. You just gotta brace up and live through whatever horror it is you are visited with. More so, you gotta survive it. No, you can’t go right on to the end to find out how it will turn out, instead you go on anticipating the better bits. You keep hoping that your faith is enough to get you through the dark parts. You go on believing that you’ll survive these crummy moments. You are trusting in a power greater than your frail self. Knowing that somehow, someway, at the end of it all, there you’ll be, standing strong.