Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Things no one ever told me

When you're young and starting out in Life, no one ever tells you that the people you've known and loved all of your life, the ones you never knew you could live without will someday leave your life: Sometimes they move, sometimes you move, sometimes you drift apart. Sometimes they want to, sometimes you want them to, sometimes you need them to end. Sometimes, even more finally, they die.
I have, however, learned that even though you never expect this to happen-you hope even that it never happens-it does happen and most times there is nothing you can do about it. In all of these happenings, I have also learned that you survive each and every 'leaving', each and every season, each and every encounter.
I can't promise that it gets easier with time. I can't promise that the dull nagging ache will eventually leave your heart. I definitely can't promise that the 'leaving' will end soon enough, but what i can promise is that it will not kill you and that whatever does not kill you surely will make you stronger. I can also guarantee that sometimes the 'leaving' creates a little more room to encounter the vast riches of the human experience; where knowing people has it's seasons and is usually for a reason. I can say it leaves no room for doubt that when the rubber hits the road the only person you have for sure is you and God, so you might as well nurture that relationship. I can also say that every chance encounter is not without its purpose.
After all is said and done, it makes you a stronger, wiser, richer and more mature person and i sure as anything can guarantee that all of this is worth every throbbing ache you'd ever feel.
I should know!


Myne Whitman said...

I totally agree. It's not easy but we can only learn to move on.

Rhapsody B. said...

This reminds me of a saying from an email.

Some people are for a time, and a season. They touch our lives leaving lessons that we need in order to grow, flourish and accomplish and once that is achieved it is time for them to move on. This is also true of our children, we bring them forth into the world, we nurture them, we teach them as best we can right from wrong, about honor and integrity, to love, honor and accept their selves and once they are grown they then depart to build their own life applying all that you have given. You want it for them, you are joyous yet that joy is tempered with sorrow at their departure. Its life, a coming in and a going out, it is the ying to the yang of things.

Hard lesson to learn yet is one we must all learn.